Sex and the Single Mom

I just read a great article over at

Maybe its my "rapist wit" (says Llyod Christmas in Dumb & Dumbr)
but sex being a single parent is a whole new BALL GAME.
and being in my 20's its all guys want anyways. I don't know about you,
but I was raised in a catholic home, with morals and values...so sex wasnt exactly an "open for discussion" topic. I pretty much had to figure it all out on my own, which is fine, but now in my 20's I find myself with child, on the prowl from time to time, and it definitely makes me feel like a such a piece of shit, but yet its like, HELLO, I have needs, i'm not a bad person bc the person I had a child with is an idiot, nor was it a situation where 5030400 men could be my baby daddy!
In the article I just read, it talks about keeping the single mom sex life "separate" and "detached" from the daily life of ear infections, crying baby, and poop diapers, which is sooo true and yet a really hard for me to not try and feel guilty or bad about my sex life as a single parent.
But guess what! I'm not going to feel guilty for wanting "me" time, and if that involves spending time with someone of the opposite sex, so be it. I feel like Single parent sex talk is NEVER discussed....and its nice to see other women speaking out about it.!

House up-keep!

I'm no neat freak by any means but seriously the amount of upkeep my home requires the older my child gets is OUTRAGEOUS!
I literally have to take out 2 bags of trash everyday, run my dishwasher everyday, do at least 2 loads of laundry everyday, pick up toys over and over and over, vacuum everyday, tidy up my bathroom everyday, clean bottles everyday, sweep up dog fur everyday..I mean honestly you'd think with doing all this clean up management everyday, my hosue would at least stay semi organized, but NO it doesnt, shit piles up, trash piles up, while my refrigerator is empty and I never have anything to wear! I swear to god day in and day out I have anxiety about how messy my house is, Peej tears shit up CONSTANTLY, she doesn't play with toys, she plays with paper, remotes and diaper wipes! I have tried to keep her play space contained, but as of late she drags all her shit out of her "CIRCUS" only for me to have to pick it all up throw it back in her circus, and REPEAT that same exact action the next day.... Thank god I have help, because if I didn't I swear my house would look like the slums. I just wish there was an easier way to stay organized!
Maybe I just need a house cleaner to come every 2 weeks? or maybe I need schedule out all the house tasks so Im not overwhelmed ... anyone have any tips? how do you keep your casa up to par? do do you just say FUCK it, and only clean it when you know your gonna have guests over?!!! haha.

Wordless Wednesday!

Better Late then NEVER, Pella's 1!

Here are a few of my favorite shots from Pella's 1 year photoshoot.

A big special thanks to my dear friend Michelle King for loving my daughter and taking these beautiful photos of her, be sure to check out her site, she does AMAZING photography

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Flashback Friday

So im goin through my archives and stumbled upon Pellas newborn shoot.... she was 7 days old.

Look at how much my sweet little beast has changed! my little 7.5lb jaundiced baby is now breaking 16 lbs and almost 14 months old... trying to walk, trying to talk, just trying to be a big girl! looking at these makes me think of that song by Taylor Swift "Never Grow Up"

They sure ain't lyin' when they say "time flies".

City & Colour

On Tuesday night I was a lucky lucky girl!!!

I got to meet Dallas Green from City & Colour, anddd if that wasnt enough

I was stage side for his show...he is mos def one of my favorites.

Dress: H&M

Dress underneath: Target

Knee Highs: Target

Boots: Docs

Instagram

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heres some of my most recent instagram pics from over the weekend!